Fuck Yeah Gender Queers

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My name is Jessica(Although I’ve always hated it) and I’m 19.I’ve come to realize that my gender has always been something that changes and alters.I’ve only just came out to my parents though ,but I’m hoping to get a binder this summer.

Top 10 Ways to Overcome Dysphoria

ladofthewildeknight:

1. Listen to Music    -     create a playlist that you know will help you feel better. Whether it’s music that distracts you, empowers you, or that you can sympathize with it, just stop and listen for a while.

2. Watch Something    -    funny, distracting, a mystery; whatever will hold your focus and take you away for long enough for you to try and gain your footing again

3. Eat Something    -    make yourself a treat. Or buy something delicious. No matter how odd or sugary or anything, so long as it doesn’t pose you immediate danger, savor it.

4. Take it Out    -    take a pillow, leash, belt or something similar in both hands and attack something sturdy. It could be your bed or a table or a tree, but yell whatever you’re feeling and beat the daylights out of that inanimate object until you’re too tired to continue.

5. Activate!     -    do research, write a post, make a video; do something to contribute to getting to where you want to be and/or helping the community.

6. Art    -    create something unique and powerful. It could relate to your dysphoria or not – just design something and focus on creating it until it’s done.  The good thing about art is that you can never run out of ideas, and it never has to get old.

7. Read    -    whether queer graphic novels, classic literature, or trans* fanfiction is your pleasure, find something and start reading, and don’t worry about how long you stay absorbed in it

8. Write a Letter    -    or a journal entry about how you feel. Perhaps write it to your future self, or to that person or part of society that manages to trigger you every time. Keep it, burn it, or stick it on your wall.

9. Write on Your Body    -    whether you want to draw a moustache on your face in eyeliner or put on full makeup, or write quotes, lyrics, symbols, images, or phrases on your body, do so. You can take the makeup off whenever you want, and you can write on a part of your body no one else will be seeing. Or you can leave it on/write on your face or arms or hands for the world to see.  If possible, it might help to write on a particular body part that is making you feel dysphoric. Then, when you look at it, you can remember that you’re in control of your body, and see whatever reminder you left for yourself.

10. Change it Up    -    get a piercing, cut and/or die your hair, choose to shave as little or as much as you’d like, get a tattoo, wear something new and different, put on dramatic makeup. Do something to your body that you can control, that does show who you are (or who you want to be or someone else entirely) on the outside.

Disclaimer: Not all of these will work for everyone! Some will work wonders, some will work a little, some will do nothing, and some may actually make it worse. As always when coping with this sort of thing, know your triggers, and make choices based around those. Other than that, do whatever it takes to keep yourself relatively safe and make yourself feel better.

note: If you have other ideas/suggestions, feel free to send them to me! (I’m trying to keep a running list on this permalink that people can easily access.) Also, I didn’t include talking because a. not everyone has that resource b. it’s the only regular suggestion I’ve seen online for dealing with dysphoria.

Also, I dislike using the word dysphoria because it is so…inadequate to cover all that it does. But it’s the best-known word, so I’ve chosen to use it here.

Non-Binary things that blows

triple-torch:

• Never sure which bathroom to enter.

• Regardless of which one I choose I still receive quizzical looks.

• Always hesitates when giving out name, because I have two.

• Getting asked if I’m trans. Then having to explain what non-binary means, only to receive a more perplexed look.

• Constantly being asked about my sexuality.

• Never sure how to reply since I’m “pansexual” aka “I like anyone who’s a decent human being, regardless of gender etc”.

• Usually end up sticking with, “I like people” to which they say “So bi?” and thus I reply, “No.”

• Or decided to avoid the question and choose to not answer it to avoid annoying assumptions and categorizations.

• Being given weird looks when I’m on the “wrong side” of the Men and Women’s clothing.

• Watching people from afar trying to figure out my gender.

• Getting my names mixed up around my family whom doesn’t understand or know about my gender identity choice.

Good times, mang.